DATING MISTAKE 3: We moved into together too quickly. Figure out whether the divorced guy is the right person for you. By moving in together within the first month, we both took a lot on.
I took on the new responsibility of not only getting used to living with him, but also being introduced to his children.
DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.
TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.
Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.
DATING MISTAKE 2: I got involved when he was still raging a war against his ex.
TIP 2: Make sure that the divorced guy you are dating is over his ex and/or knows how to handle his emotions towards her.
The challenge I had was that it felt like I was in a relationship with both of them. This would cause a lot of tension in him and would then be transferred into our relationship, which caused a lot of stress on both of us.
To avoid this, it's key that he is seeing a third party or that he has moved on so you can focus on having a good time.
He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.
To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.