Bottom line is your relative she wanted him to like most men do.Her response seemed to be a little legalistic in nature and wrong for her to retaliate in such a way to such a courteous request from a close friend.If they have been seeing each other "very seriously," I would think she would have given some indication of her stance against kissing along the way.
Is this a generational thing I've missed out on? HE SAID: Affection within a dating relationship will always be a much disputed and often heated debate.Christians can’t seem to agree on doctrine let alone personal conduct in a relationship.Particularly when it comes to kissing, we will never have a clear cut consensus among believers as to the appropriateness of how far one should (or can) go when dating.EDITOR' S NOTE: He Said-She Said is a biweekly advice column for singles featuring a question from a reader with responses from a male and female point of view.If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to [email protected] (selected questions will be posted anonymously).
QUESTION: A younger relative of mine was recently seriously rebuffed by his lady friend (they are both in their 30's) for asking if he could kiss her.They have been seeing each other very seriously for a while, and he has wanted some indication of her affection for him.Our actions should not cause someone else to misinterpret the Bible, find justification for wrong behavior, nor lead them to or exacerbate a problem they may already be struggling with.The difficulty comes when one person feels free to act in a certain way while another does not.I don’t see this woman’s reaction as a "generational thing." In fact, it almost seems contrary to what society is touting for relationships.With our grade schools handing out condoms to alleviate the problem of teen pregnancy, the “appropriateness of kissing” conversation doesn’t even show up on the relational conduct radar of young people these days.