The study found nearly 50 percent of women will reach for their wallet and offer to pay, but more than half of them will be upset if they do have to shell out any money.
The study explains men and women also use the battle for the check as a non-verbal way of communicating.
Women see a guy who pays for the check as a gentleman and someone who is invested.
The study does say women should pay for something by at least the third date.That's because research shows men, especially younger men, have stopped dating a woman because she never paid for anything."The younger the man, the more strongly he feels that women should be paying for something," said Frederick.CNN Money offered the following tips to help both men and women navigate the dating scene.Dating in itself is a very personal and sophisticated matter. According to Lynne P., an American living in Germany, ” …In the era of social media and dating apps, the old battle over who pays on a first date still lingers on. A new study finds 10 percent of heterosexual daters are looking for something very traditional where the man pays for everything.
Another 10 percent are looking for 50/50 from the very first date. But the study also found more than 75 percent of men say they feel guilty when accepting women's money on a date.
Janet Lever, a professor of sociology at California State University, calls it "benevolent sexism.""Men are in this horrible position.
They're still fearing: should I hold the door open or is that going to insult her? It gets even more complicated when the check arrives.
if there’s any genuine connection between two people, it’ll survive whatever differences may arise in the early stages of dating, and if those differences seem too overwhelming and/or the relationship doesn’t survive for other reasons, trying to make too many adaptations in the early stages is NOT going to help!
The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.
And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren’t open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn’t stand a snowflake’s chance in hell of surviving anyway.” However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation. Let’s listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular.