"We have heard comedians and others justify or explain their misdeeds by saying, 'The devil made me do it.' I do not really think the devil can make us do anything" ("To the Point," New Era, Jan. It is a beautiful Friday night and the Gordon home is stirring with excitement as Sister Gordon, a wife and mother to four children, puts the final touches on her hair, makeup and evening dress. ” gushes Sister Gordon as she swings open the door. I have a wonderful night planned and it will be great to catch up on life!As a car pulls to a stop in the front driveway, she swiftly gathers up her purse and flies down the stairs to greet her visitor. Her husband, Jim, comes over to shake the visitor’s hand. ” “There is no one I can think of whom I would rather see her with, besides myself of course.” Jim chuckles, “Try not to be out too late sweetheart and enjoy your evening!
We encourage them to purify and strengthen their marriage. Note the inconsistencies in our modern approach: We encourage the youth to go out and experience life without true restraint, without true precaution, and then we are shocked when some or even many of these “fine” youth succumb to the flesh and make tragic and “serious” mistakes.In spite of the logical arguments, we could possibly make some exceptions if the dating system had positive data to strengthen its argument.Instead we see relationships with no intended commitment, young men who don’t want to grow up, women who are not constant, increasing struggles with pornography and fornication, skyrocketing divorce, broken hearts, ruined friendships, jealousy, wasted time over “who likes who” and the list goes on.I hope as you read this short scene, you felt uncomfortable.What was a married woman with four children and a seemingly strong marriage thinking to go out with the husband of another woman? Sister Gordon and Brother Jones were capable adults with years of world experience.
They were not in love and there were no serious intentions.They just wanted to have a good time and get to know one another better. For a married woman to deliberately place herself in a position which could potentially wreak havoc on her marriage (with or without her husband’s approval) would be unwise.If this scene were to be reenacted in real life, it would certainly raise some eyebrows and gasps. Whether or not a man or woman are friends, strangers or co-laborers, if the individual is married it is generally understood in the Church that “going out” with someone else, someone other than his or her spouse, is unthinkable.This discussion begs the following question: if it is considered wrong for a married individual to date other friends, (though they are not “in love”, have years of world experience and know the clear expectations and boundaries for their interaction) why is it considered normal for single young men and women?What could possibly induce us to allow two young adults, head over heels in love or at least attracted to one another, with no experience, no commitments and only a few clear expectations and boundaries, to engage in activity we would shun for married adults?To varying degrees, we place a watchful eye over married men and women to ensure that they safeguard their hearts.