The reason that we are not to marry an unbeliever is because they can lead us away from the Lord.So if we become naive and think this cannot happen to us we will later see the error of our ways.
This type of statement is clearly a red flag in the relationship because love is not trying to seek out what is best for me but a better definition of love is to seek the betterment of the other person.When I am truly loving another person I am seeking nothing in return and only want what is the best for them.A statement like I listed above is the counter opposite of a real meaning of love. It is amazing how time goes by and when I was given this article title to write, I was instantly intrigued. First, I think it is fun to look back and remember what it was like to be in the dating world even if it was many years ago.But second, my current job as pastor includes working with young adults and I have had many conversations with some singles that are interested in finding a spouse.
I think the challenges today are far different than they were 20+ years ago and I will bring out some of these differences when discussing 5 red flags of Christian dating.This thought or something similar to it are very hard for me to even process in my mind.If you are a Christian you need to marry a person that is a believer…period. I believe to be in a relationship with a person that is not of the same faith will ultimately lead to frustration and often to a failed marriage.Listen to Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians -15 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? ” So it only makes sense that if we are not to marry an unbeliever, then we should not consider dating one either.That is playing with fire as the heart can be easily bent and emotionally attached to someone.