I didn’t miss this at all: I wasn’t spending time on conversations that fizzled or making plans that were eventually canceled, two of my biggest pet peeves about online dating. Which is another way of saying I didn’t go on many dates, period.
) and confusing (wait, did I tell you this crazy-funny story from my weekend, or was that someone else? While it didn’t work out with this Bumble guy, I was able to focus on how I felt around him without constantly comparing him to other people popping up on my phone.
 Pro: No tedious and often dead-end conversations with matches.
Online dating involves a lot of time and effort that can feel like wasted energy but is just part of the search.
My app hiatus was a much-needed break, but not everything about it was wonderful.
The time away reminded me how hard it is to find dates without using the Internet.
If you’re feeling similarly bored, or over- or underwhelmed by online dating — and want to take a similar break in the new year — here are the pros and cons of my three months off the dating apps: Pro: When you’re not online-dating, it’s easier to focus on one potential partner at a time. But there is something powerful about evaluating one person at a time, without the daily influx of new matches.When I started my app hiatus, I had one last Bumble date on the calendar — and it went really well.When my friend Abby dared me in September to delete my dating apps for the rest of the year, I was eager to let them go.At the time, I was feeling bored and overwhelmed with dating — tired of carrying on generic conversations with strangers that often went nowhere and overwhelmed by all the potentials out there.I wanted to take advantage of cool connections I was making in real life as I was making them, rather than hoping to run into the person again virtually.So I logged off of Bumble, Hinge, Happn, JSwipe and Tinder, and I haven’t touched them since.